Harian Metro Headlines: Bayi 2 Minggu Mati Pecah Kepala Akibat Perbuatan Bapa Sendiri.

Furious! That was my truth feelings upon reading the Metro headlines dated 18 April 2012 when passing through the shop at Wisma Lim Foo Yong after having my lunch today.

Even to imagine a baby crying when getting his first injection wrenched my heart, moreover to imagine how an ‘animal’ could do this to their own enviable infant.

My best guess, either this person is a psychopath or the father is actually the reincarnated evil from Hell. I have some suggestions which I think could be very useful to prevent such stupidity. Those are:-

• When couples attending a pre-marriage training, besides discussing on the role of husband and wife, perhaps the trainer should highlight the serious ongoing marriage issues such violence towards wife and kids, a cheating spouses and thereafter discuss on what trigger those issues and how to tackle them. Also, tell the participants on the reality of marriage after the honeymoon period ends. Real responsibility, real burden and perhaps any doa’ that would help the couple to resolve problems and tighten up their relationship. What matter is not only the wedding ceremony and the akad nikah, but most importantly is how to maintain the ship when the turbulence come and how to stick together through thick and thin for the rest of our life;

• Other than normal physical test, perhaps a mental test should be conducted to see whether the soon to be married couples are mentally fit to build a family and to attend every single issues and stresses in the marriage. Some people might appear healthy and physically fit but we never to assume their level of mental well-being;

• Anger management classes. Most marriage nowadays is taken away by life demand. As the divorce rate is greatly increasing over years, this indicates clear color that some couples find it hard to find their mutual understanding with spouses when conflict hits. Anger management might seen as insignificant, but never doubt its will when the real conflict came into the picture; and

• Allah and family blessing. Never doubt the power of prayer. Pray and seek Allah's blessings in every doings. By seeking it, one will be more rationale in attending hurdles. Well, marriage ain’t a fairy tale where both couple will live happily ever after, after the ceremony happened. It is more than that and it comes with full package. The package of love, hatred, anger, passion, lust and many more. So it takes up lots of prayers, discussions, hugs and off course agreements and papers to be signed before the akad took place J

Well, I am sharing some thoughts and ideas on how the issue could intelligently be tackled. Appreciate, nurture and love our child. Be bless for Allah bestows them as many couples out there who had been married for few years and still yet to receive their bundle of joy from Heaven.

My baby son in his peaceful sleeping.

Afterall, if we are capable enough to make them, so we are definitely capable and sane enough to be responsible towards them. Yang baik dari Allah dan khilaf dari kita sendiri. Wallahualam - nho