A Friend Who Betray

We were great together

At high school, you and me

We were meant to be as a friend

At least, that was what I thought you were.

Inseparable; as others said

I thought for I don’t have to rely on others

I have you and it’s suffice

No other requirements no other terms

For all the laughter that made my day cheer and the rest, it doesn’t matter.

That was when things were perfect and in order.

But then, I was wrong.

I remember how you stare

Towards me when I missed my hit

On the day of our softball game

On one particular round that I made the team lose

When we had the game against some other leading school.

The coach yelled at me

The whole team abandoned me

I looked at you for hope of support

Yet you give me the look of disguise and hate

As though you wish me was never your mate.

However I made a big hit to redeem my pride

When we had a game against CBN

It was a victory when I made my home run

And suddenly you ran to me, delightedly, as though we did it together hand in hand.

We were cool since then

Yet I never fail to remember on what you have done

For I finally realize that you were not the one whom I can lean against

At the time when everybody cast me for I knew you would do the same.

Month passes and we never the same

For later I found out

That you and our whole friend were planning a plot

To hit my face and get me humiliate

When you created a fake letter with the hope that I would flatter

Saying it was from a boy who had a big crush

Who wanted to meet me up and hope the relationship would last.

Well tell you what, I had smell the rotten fish in prior

And I will not let you push me down further

And thanks to the ex-boyfriend of yours ‘who was that again I can’t remember?’

Who you dumped for some other shallow

And he was the one who tricked you and finally exposed the lie

Which you and the rest were planning for a nasty lie.

That was then. When we were in high school.

Now, 12 years after high school

We bumped again and you were hit by the truth

Well woman, I neither be sorry for you nor be bother if you are still neglecting the fact

For it is priceless and none of you could afford afford the price tag.

So long. You deserve the best place ever; to be deleted from my life; permenantly -nho

I can't help but to expose the damage.

Why am I keep clashing my path with the one who caused the past sullenness this Ramadhan? Perhaps The Almighty asks nothing but for me to let go.

Khilaf Kita

Terlalu banyak sebab untuk marah

Tapi terlalu sikitnya rajah kesabaran

Terlalu banyak kekasaran

Tapi terlalu sikit sebab untuk jadi lembut dan sopan

Terlalu banyak faktor kesalahan

Tapi terlalu sikit penghargaan untuk kebaikan



Terlalu banyak kesilapan

Tapi terlalu sempit ruang taubat dan kemaafan

Terlalu banyak bebelan

Tapi terlalu kecil titisan kesyukuran

Terlalu ramai yang dusta

Tapi terlalu sedikit yang jadi benar

Terlalu banyaknya hasutan syaitan

Tapi terlalu halusnya pujukan kebaikan

Begitulah terlalu banyaknya khilaf manusia

Tapi Allah SWT tetap buka pintu taubat seluas-luasnya sebelum tulisan Al-Quran hilang dari pandangan. Wallahualam.

Moga Allah tenangkan fikiran hamba-Nya yang sedang diduga dengan lapar dan dahaga di bulan Ramadhan ini J - nho.

The Forgotten Blog

I remember sometimes ago when Saif was born that I have started to write a blog. Precisely, in June 2010. But I have lost track of the account and have forgotten the email used as well as its URL. Then, out of the blue I was google-ing my own name + combine with the husband’s name when I bumped into this blog called “ The Life Trail” under the URL of http://www.hayashahrir.blogspot.com/ It was mine! And the first and the only post was on the sudden joyful arrival of my Prince; Saif Najiy and how my birthday was being celebrated during my ‘pantang’.

Guess I have started blogging way before it was so-called ‘inspired’ by anyone! Sila berhenti perasan! LOL! – nho.

Ramadhan and Forgiveness.

Sometimes, as much as we try to accept the fate that has been planned for us, somehow we can't help but to feel sorry over seeing the one who used to hurt us look awful now when we bumped in a circumstances, as though the Karma has finally laid its fist on them. Wallahualam – nho,2012.

This might be the reason on why our paths were crossed last night. To forgive and let go.

Conversely, I would rather not to touch on the recovered wound anymore. Let it healed flawlessly. Nevertheless when the paths are crossed under circumstances, we can’t help but to seize on every single tad of the bitterness. Yet, let the bygone be bygone, at times, the past are meant to be forgotten through the ticking clock. All are forgiven and done and the forgiveness is sought too for my offended write up towards her. I guess I was taken away by the emotions when it was written.

Salam Ramadhan to all! May all of us be bestowed with His mighty blessing. Also, I pray for my daughter’s resolution to fast for full 30 days will be a triumph! Break a leg girl! Mummy sayang Natasha!

p/s: I always fall in love with my husband’s creativity and creations. Ramadhan card below is one of those. I’m your biggest fan dearie! -nho

Self-made Ramadhan card by the husband.

Resigning; How To Do It Professionally

In today's society, where a job is no longer guaranteed for life, handing in your notice is something many people become accustomed to. But like most things, there are right and wrong ways to approach situations. When it comes to resigning, there are certain etiquettes to abide by to ensure success and a smooth transition.

Setting the scene

In an ideal world, resigning from your job would be pleasant and straightforward. Your boss would be understanding and supportive of your needs and no bad feelings would arise. The fact is, too few employees experience such an easy ride.

How you handle your resignation has an impact on your career. Conforming to the correct etiquette can go a long way in ensuring confidence as your career develops; whereas approaching your resignation in the wrong way could be detrimental to your immediate future. After all, a good reference is not just valuable, but vital.

Once you have made up your mind to resign, your most urgent task is to inform your manager. A letter of resignation is the formal way to communicate your action and it acts as a legal document stating the date from which you wish your notice period to begin.

How you write your letter depends on the circumstances of your departure. A simple resignation letter should include details of the person to whom it is addressed, the notice of termination of employment, when this is effective from and your signature.

If you are leaving on good terms, or are particularly sorry to be leaving behind valued colleagues and friends, you may want to add an extra sentence or two thanking your boss for the opportunities you have been given, and expressing your regret. A touch of sentiment, concisely phrased, can go a long way and costs nothing.

On the other hand, if your resignation is as a result of adverse working conditions or, worse, a clash of personalities with your boss or another colleague, it can be dangerous to go into detail. Simply state your intention to resign coolly. There is no need to elaborate.

Remember, the letter has one sole purpose – to inform your employer of the date you wish to terminate your employment. Keep it simple and to the point. Don't commit bitterness to paper.

Help – how do I tell my boss?

You've made your decision to go to pastures new, and written the letter that legally notifies your employer of your actions. How do you feel?

It's not uncommon to experience a mixture of emotions. Guilt is often the first - they'll think I've deserted them! Anxiety then sets in. You imagine the moment when you tell your boss you're leaving and you try to visualize their expression and reaction. The notice period? gulp! How will they treat me? What if they try to convince me to stay? What if they don't? You may feel sad about the friends that you will leave behind.

Remind yourself you are ecstatic at landing your new job. But on the other hand, you know you have yet to do the dreaded deed - tell your boss.

The reality is, most people at some point in their lives, including your boss, will have been in your situation. Despite the fact you may have been a valued member of the team, the company will not collapse without you. You are not the first person to resign from there and you won't be the last - so stop beating yourself up over this.

There is never a 'right time' to resign. Just use common sense and judgment:

• Keep it confidential - your boss will appreciate being the one to decide who else to tell, how and when to break the news
• Find the right moment to see your boss - just before he is about to make a presentation to the board of directors is NOT a good time
• Be sure of your reasons for leaving - if necessary, rehearse them
• If you don't want to reveal where you're going, you're perfectly within your rights to not declare your intentions 
• Be prepared for a negative reaction, even anger - take it on the chin, block your ears and re-state the facts clearly and simply; remember, you are just resigning - the initial shock will pass. 
• If there is likely to be a handover period to a colleague or new person, reassure your boss you'll be helpful and cooperative - don't be negative
• Remember your reasons for leaving - stick to your guns

Breaking the news of your resignation could be a daunting experience - or perhaps it will be a doddle.

Second thoughts

But will you or won't you resign? It's not too late. Contemplate long and hard before making your final decision. Ask yourself - is this really the right job for me? Do I really want to leave?

Being absolutely sure you are doing the right thing is crucial. You may be pleased at the prospect of a 'counter-offer' - but what will your boss think of you now? That you're disloyal? Only interested in money? Indecisive? So, before you make up your mind, give some thought to the following:

• What are the pros and cons of your present job? And the new one?
• Have you pursued all avenues for advancement within your current firm?
• Would you leave if you were offered more money or a promotion? 
• What does your heart say? What does your head say? Listen to your head.
• Think back to your motives for seeking alternative employment in the first place. What made you unhappy? Are those circumstances likely to change?
• Don't be swayed by motherly comments from friends or family such as 'But you were so settled' and 'Think of all the pollution in the city - it's not good for your health'.
• Don't be put off by imagining people saying, 'It wouldn't be the same without you' or 'I had you in line for a promotion next quarter'.

Be positive - don't underestimate your capabilities. If you have goals and ambitions, reach them. It is important to remember that the average worker spends eight hours per day at the office. That's forty hours per week, not to mention the overtime. -CIMAGLOBAL.COM

Useful reading taken  www.myjobs.cimaglobal.com/resigning  for one who thinking of resigning from current job PROFESSIONALLY. Useful for me indeed.

You've Been Missed

You’ve been missed

Even when we are miles apart

But you will be held closely in my heart.

You’ve been missed

All your greatness and sweetness

Is always being remembered thoughtfully in a bliss.

You’ve been missed

I pray for you to have your entire wish

Even at the day when you feel lost and there’s nothing more to embrace.

You’ve been missed

And I just want you to know

That even we are no longer sharing laugh and great jokes together

But it is our friendship which I shall cherish forever.

You’ve been dearly missed. – nho

This dedicatedly made for the people who were once used to share laugh and touch me in my life. The bond between us shall be remembered and held closed in my heart no matter how far we are apart by our ambitions and goals. Miss you girls.! J

He Is The Real Family Joker

He is small,

Yet his voice could shatter your peaceful silence at home.

He is cute,

But never underestimate his biting power when he furious towards you.

He is bubbly,

Yet he could be your mighty test when he started climbing chairs and smash everything apart.

He is serious at times,

But he could be the reason for us to laugh out loud when he said 'bananana' and dancing to the TV bit.

He is passionate towards his toys

And your birthday cake could smudge over him channeling the art skills and power.  

He is our love and soul

He is the greatest gift of all

He is the reason to smile against the day that dull

He is loved and cherished forever above all

Love u son, Saif Najiy Shahrir Fitri. –nho  

The Power of Zikir

Never doubt the power of Zikir

It consist simple words that worshiping The Almighty

Yet it is so powerful that can change your day.

Try this simple exercise

Recites “Subhanallah Walhamdulillah Walailahaillallah Allahuakbar”

Every time you are waiting for the train at the station

Whenever you are in the train heading to work

At the time when you at work ticking the endless to-do-list

Or even while queuing at the counter somewhere.

Say this magic spell

It totally change your mood and perception of the day

Especially when the work demand getting extreme

And it turns you wacko.

Believe me

It truly works

At least on me. J - nho  

Happy Birthday To You My Dear!

Happy birthday my dear

You age now increased by another number.

Happy birthday my dear

You are now a little older and perhaps a little wiser (LOL!).

Happy birthday my dear

8 years of sharing life with you is always filled with tender.

Happy birthday my dear

I love you and it’s beyond measure.

Happy 29^th birthday to you my dear! –nho

It’s 11 July again and the age of another best half of me is increased. 8 years together, he has been a great best friend, a good listener, a critique, a supporter and an undeniably great daddy to both our Princess and Prince.  I neither plan for some exclusive event for the birthday bash nor an astonishing surprise for him on his birthday even a fancy gift. Instead, I dragged him to accompany me to get things ready for my Master class registration and after that, we had some quiet quality time with funny yellow birthday card and later, a decent family dinner which has been a little chaos with Saif who can’t control himself from smudging the cute cake. 



Daddy's little boy.



Dear you, I wish nothing but for both of us to still hold hands at the blissful rainbow and at the stormy cloud. To still hold hands when the turbulence comes and still hold each other tight even when we turn 80, sitting at the balcony watching the world changing :)

I love you, and happy 29^th birthday!

Teachers, Stop Neglecting Bully Issues.

Few days back me and the husband decided to send an email to school highlighting on bully issue. Our intention is to seek for the explanation on what action will be taken by school if such cases happen for I strongly believe; any students at any schools will undeniably came across such conflict. The strongest reason for us doing that is because our princess has started to complain that there are few boys in class started to take a few step further in teasing her by punching her stomach and pushing her until she fell terribly.

Truth is, she has been telling this to us since the past 3 months. But as parents, the best thing we could do is to advice her for this is what she will probably face once she started school. People carry different attribute. Some might be kind but some are vice versa. But most important thing is how to tackle them when the path crossed. Our best advice is for her to be patience. Telling her that Allah will send His hikmah to those He loves. And the patience ones are among them. Further, take this as a challenge which Allah sends in order for her to become a better person in life. (And I am baffle if 6 years old girl such her would understand such advice).

However, I find it quite ‘interesting’ when school seems to neglect the issue by constantly ‘build a wall’ by saying this repeatedly ‘we have so many kids under our supervision, even one teacher is expected to handle minimum 30++ students in the class, therefore sometimes we cant help but to overlook the situation and it is normal for the kids range at their age to act such ways; active and hard to handle’.

As parents, we totally understand the teachers’ situation in school. With their teaching responsibility plus with other KPI’s set by the Ministry for them, it is never easy to put the satisfaction towards every parents wish. But on the other hand, we strongly believe that teachers are smart and incredibly intelligent, therefore they should have had expected this issue to come up thus prepare themselves with better remedy to curb this ‘traditional’ illness. For I have this belief that most teachers teach for passion and not as a burdening responsibility only to ensure that the end of the month their account will be debited with some amount of money; called ‘salary’.

As parents, we expect for school to tell us their firm prevention ways to tackle this issue. We would be very much appreciated if at least the Headmaster or their representative could answer our curiosity with some solid explanation and justification towards the issue, not by keep constantly telling us the same standard answer continually as though, this matter is totally none of their concern.

Perhaps the teacher should be aware on how bullying disease could influence the students emotionally and physically. I believe I don’t have to elaborate further on the examples as I know all of us are brilliant enough to infer. Bottom line, I (and I’m sure many parents out there too) do not want our children to experience a traumatize childhood only to fulfill some other kids’ bad manners in school.

To conclude, I strongly support and believe in our education and school system. I respect teachers and appreciate their endeavors in developing our kids to become a good civilian. Nevertheless, I would like to stress here that, parents nowadays are concern about their kids’ education in order to adapt their kids in this rapid development of globalization world. That probably describes their meticulousness in their kids’ advancement in school. We trust in teacher and its system and that is why sometimes the criticism exists in order for them to fix the loopholes for the sake of better generations. Walluhu’alam -nho

Spot the not! :D

We Are Dead by The Tradition.

New ideas might sound silly at times. Nevertheless, open your mind, welcome the alternatives and opinions, digest and filter the unwanted while appreciate and execute the good ones. Who knows it might solve the tangled issues which were abandoned by routine and tradition –nho, 2012.

Sometimes we were mistakenly judge in attempt to change the routine by executing new ideas. Even, at some points ideas are often being blindly rejected over traditions. I must say; by the observation working for 5 years in 3 different companies; I witnessed with my own eyes how fresh vibrant ideas sometimes are not well accepted in the company that has been established for more than 50 years as they are used to traditions that made them what they are today. While on the other hand, new ideas, invention, lively skills and being intelligently resourceful are viewed as an opportunity in new developing company.

For example and based on the experience, the seniors in the established company (the company which has successfully maintained their growth of success for more than 50 years) are unlikely to hear the new paradigm presented by the new executive age 27 years old who sees the loopholes in the management routine. The traditions somehow has blindfold the invention and creative method to tackle issues. On the other hand, new ideas, innovation and creative solutions are widely accepted by the newly establishing company as long as it helps to reduce the company operational cost.

Bottom line, find the mutual point. Oversee the people acceptance. Some might appreciate the ideas while some just seen it as insignificant. Sometimes traditions are relevance while at some points it just meant to be thrown out of the window when it is no longer applicable in the modern world. We are rapidly changing, and somehow to hold on to the traditions for too long will cause a great demise to the invention and its creative minds.

With that, I am sure ‘ Biar Mati Anak Jangan Mati Adat’ is no longer appropriate now. -nho